I don't know why people seem to be very open to me about their private life, sometimes including secrets they wouldn't even tell their closest friends, but they do tell me that. I don't know if this is a gift or a curse but I do have it - whatever it is.
The wife of my patient came to me after dinner tonight and said that she needed to talk to me. I thought it was one of those things that she and her family, especially her youngest son, would complain about - how he finds fault at every little thing that the staff do in taking care of his father. I was surprised it wasn't about that. She just needed someone to talk to because she's been keeping something to herself for over a month now and she just couldn't stand it anymore. She's depressed, told me that she just started taking Prozac today and that she's really upset because she is being urged to lie to her husband. She told me she's got the big C a couple of months ago and that she's been having chemo for the past months. She doesn't have plans on telling his husband about this. And she hates that feeling.
The fact that her husband nearly got thrown out from the facility because of how his youngest son's been treating the staff, threw her off. The son is very rude, shouts a lot and finds fault in everything. She didn't tell her sons that the owner of the facility gave her a 30-day notice to find another RFC for her husband. So, she decided to talk to me and asked if his youngest son is really out of line. I told her that I understand that his son is very protective of his father and that he wants what's best for him. But I also made her understand that the caregivers of her husband is from a different culture that he has to respect. That he could talk to the caregivers in a nice way. She promised to talk to his son about it and apologized to me for his son's behavior. I told her she doesn't have to apologize to me, his son should apologize to the caregivers that he disrespected. Now, I don't believe that he could do that otherwise the mother wouldn't have to apologize for him. Oh well..
She then told me some other things that made me shake my head in disgust. It never struck me that the green eyed monster could take over this lady's demeanor. But what the hell, I just listened intently and tried to understand where she's coming from.
Ah.. just another day at work.
The wife of my patient came to me after dinner tonight and said that she needed to talk to me. I thought it was one of those things that she and her family, especially her youngest son, would complain about - how he finds fault at every little thing that the staff do in taking care of his father. I was surprised it wasn't about that. She just needed someone to talk to because she's been keeping something to herself for over a month now and she just couldn't stand it anymore. She's depressed, told me that she just started taking Prozac today and that she's really upset because she is being urged to lie to her husband. She told me she's got the big C a couple of months ago and that she's been having chemo for the past months. She doesn't have plans on telling his husband about this. And she hates that feeling.
The fact that her husband nearly got thrown out from the facility because of how his youngest son's been treating the staff, threw her off. The son is very rude, shouts a lot and finds fault in everything. She didn't tell her sons that the owner of the facility gave her a 30-day notice to find another RFC for her husband. So, she decided to talk to me and asked if his youngest son is really out of line. I told her that I understand that his son is very protective of his father and that he wants what's best for him. But I also made her understand that the caregivers of her husband is from a different culture that he has to respect. That he could talk to the caregivers in a nice way. She promised to talk to his son about it and apologized to me for his son's behavior. I told her she doesn't have to apologize to me, his son should apologize to the caregivers that he disrespected. Now, I don't believe that he could do that otherwise the mother wouldn't have to apologize for him. Oh well..
She then told me some other things that made me shake my head in disgust. It never struck me that the green eyed monster could take over this lady's demeanor. But what the hell, I just listened intently and tried to understand where she's coming from.
Ah.. just another day at work.
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